Facebook Etiquette for Mass Personal Messaging

Malaysians may be the 4th most active users in Facebook, but our Internet etiquette is still like we’re underneath the shell. Seriously.

Time and time again, we’ve reminded email users to please use the Carbon Copy (CC) or Blind Carbon Copy (BCC), do they listen, yes. However, many still forget and continue to blast out without this etiquette. And by the way, if you do this monthly from your corporate email using programs like Outlook, you’re now in high-risk of getting blacklisted by Google, Yahoo and Hotmail

Now comes Facebook. I’ve had some wedding invitations from friends. It starts out alright when they mass message old friends intended to inform them of their happy day. However, it becomes frustrating and disappointing (for me) to learn, everyone only hits Reply to All when they want to inform the bride or groom of their mailing address. Did you know, what may happen when you do this?

Invasion of private information

Irregardless of our friendship, I may not know the rest of the friends you’ve mass messaged. In the worst possible case, you and I may not know how my private information can be misused by any friend.

Facebook unintentionally spams me

I can’t remove myself from a conversation, unlike pictures. Soon enough, your mass message about your wedding starts feeling like Facebook tagging spam. So, dear Facebook team, could you please allow me to remove or mute conversations in mass messages?

Prevent this unhealthy etiquette

These are the 2 things which I’ve observed so far. And it’s only corrected once a friends comes forth and informs the others to reply individually.

If you’ve friends or the sender who hits Reply to all too, send the original recipient a personal message about this etiquette and ask them to inform the group.

It takes a real friend to stand up for a friend. 🙂

Stop Facebook Picture Tagging Spam

Have you been a victim of Facebook’s tag spam? You know you have when a friend tagged you in a picture which has nothing to do with your physical presence, at all. For example; you receive a notification you’ve been tagged in a photo and when you review the photo, you see this.

perseverance poster
The guy ain't me

Are you insulting me by saying the guy is me? Or, were you too lazy to personally speak to me and motivate me as a friend, after you read my Facebook wall postings.

Real friends know you better

However, I personally find the above image still acceptable. As compared to friends who selfishly tag you in images related to their business products, which you’d have no interest what so ever! If you were my friend, wouldn’t you have known I’m not interested to invest right now?

Then, why did you think of tagging me in this picture.

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Not my kind of investment right now

Stop damaging your friends Facebook reputation

If you don’t know how Facebook works, learn how to use it as a personal tool rather than a business tool. Recently, I noticed a friend of mine was tagged in 2 unrelated pictures which even if he was interested, would’ve been best kept private. He was tagged in 2 lingerie pictures.

I didn’t have to jump to any conclusion that my friend fell victim to another Facebook picture tagging spam. And at that moment I thought to myself, my business colleagues and clients who I’ve friended are also seeing this via their Facebook stream. Gosh.

Act to curb Facebook picture tagging spam

Curbing this can only be made possible by you. It’s okay to have more friends. But think of how your friend’s actions can affect you in Facebook.

Therefore, tell them with a personal message to stop tagging you in unrelated pictures. If it falls on deaf ears, my choice would be to un-friend them.

Because, I know my real friends would listen to me.